A List

Today I had to cheer myself up after the Raiders humiliating loss to the Broncos on Monday Night Football. By halftime I wondered why I finished my workout at the gym early just to come home and watch this game. I was watching an episode of the Michael Baisden show I recorded earlier. The topic was "Are Women too picky when it comes to choosing a Man." The subject of "lists" came up and it related to the things Women want (and Men too) to find in their companion.

For those people who have a detailed list of their ideal mate and are unwavering with anything on the list, I believe it will lead them to disappointment in their dating lives. I say this because it is very rare to find someone to meet all of your requirements. Even if you do find your Prince Charming, that particular person may have greater expectations in a partner that you can provide. Even in long lasting Marriages, a spouse may have qualities that the other spouse doesn't like however their good qualities far outweigh the negative. That's love.

Don't get me wrong, it's OK to have standards, you need them to weed out the bad ones. However lighten up on that list a little and allow that person an opportunity to be themselves. You never know, that new person may bring out qualities that help improve an overall you. If you are ready to dump a person who may have only 70% of your qualities, someone else may take him/her if they came from a relationship with only 40%.